Every once in a while I find it completely necessary to go radio silent. I have to spend time in my quiet place. It’s where I find my solace and myself and gather all the things that I need to continue on my journey as wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend. Life has taught me that I cannot run on fumes and that the fuel I need to power life’s events are not fueled by well wishes or good intentions from others. I am rejuvenated in my downtime. So lately I have been quiet and the lesson I have received during this time is that silence is golden when you have nothing to say.
Let me explain.
We live dysfunctionally comfortable in a society that is so visually stimulating to a point to where our own thoughts are decided for us. We all come to the same conclusions. We are all outraged by the same things at the same times. And we justify not being outraged about the same something but in reality it’s only because the news didn’t make a big deal of it, so we don’t either. We are #BlackLivesMatter, #AllLivesMatter, or #BacktheBlue. We are for Trump or against. Everybody has an opinion and their two cents. And it’s loud. It’s messy. Without being well thought out, It’s everywhere.
And it is simply just too much.
Some person has a point of view and EVERYONE has to jump down that person’s throat with their view, no matter if it’s helpful or not. We are making America great again all from the comforts of our home. Lots of talk with little action.
And it is simply just too much and actually not enough.
I recently read a quote that said:
That is so true. Just because someone wants to argue their point, doesn’t mean that I have to subscribe. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. If you don’t have anything logical to say, just be quiet.
Which leads me back to why I write this article. Silence is golden when you have nothing to say. So many of us look for opportunities to hurl ill-conceived and misinformed thoughts on others. Folks look for arguments or a platform to spew the unnecessary rhetoric that gets people in trouble.
I include myself in this group
There have been plenty times that I saw something on Facebook and wanted to say “hey, that’s not right” or “how can you view that in this way?” And sometimes I do respond but more out of getting my point out and less of trying to find resolve or an in-between mutual agreement.
To me, life is all about where you can add value. And sometimes I talk. And sometimes I am silent. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s just that life has shown me that just because you feel you have something to say, it doesn’t always mean that you should say it. And while we look for things to entertain us, we lose bits of ourselves. It only makes sense, what you feed your mind is what you begin to align yourself with. And we get further and further from who we are.
Silence is Golden
Lately, I have not had much to say and at first it bothered me because I am a blogger. But then I realized we don’t always have to have something to say. And it is perfectly okay. I find peace in my quietness and we all need a bit of that from time to time.
Be great. Back away from your phone and TV. Enjoy the outdoors. Enjoy you. Silence truly is golden. It’s where some of our best work comes from.